I agree with this, and I will add that buying things can also be a form of busyness that dissociates us from ourselves. That's what the article I published yesterday was about. I got the message from school and childhood that I was supposed to dissociate from myself because connecting with me made it hard to please my caregivers and teachers. So I've spent most of my adult life trying to connect back. This morning, I started by dictating my new ebook for 2 hours before I looked at any content on my phone, and I regularly just put it down and sit. Feels scary and difficult because there's a wash of negative emotion that typically overwhelms me. But I think it's worth it to connect with ourselves, even if that feels painful.
What a beautiful piece—so many lines landed as pure truth. “It’s not doing nothing, it’s choosing not to do everything” especially struck me as such a powerful reframe.
I’ve been consciously expanding my own capacity for stillness lately, and I’ve noticed how loud the internal dialogue can be at first—like a detox from the addiction to busyness and noise. But if you can stay with it, the stillness becomes golden.
We don’t always realize how disconnected we’ve become until we slow down enough to feel ourselves again. Thank you for this reminder.
Thanks Jennifer, I’m so glad to know that you’re already adopting stillness as part of living. It’s a strong move in times where everything is constantly pulling us away from self.
I've been very intentional lately about slowing down and being more present. Calming my nervous system with purposeful under-stimulation. It's been amazing.
I agree with this, and I will add that buying things can also be a form of busyness that dissociates us from ourselves. That's what the article I published yesterday was about. I got the message from school and childhood that I was supposed to dissociate from myself because connecting with me made it hard to please my caregivers and teachers. So I've spent most of my adult life trying to connect back. This morning, I started by dictating my new ebook for 2 hours before I looked at any content on my phone, and I regularly just put it down and sit. Feels scary and difficult because there's a wash of negative emotion that typically overwhelms me. But I think it's worth it to connect with ourselves, even if that feels painful.
Totally agree, Connecting with self is the base of every other connection we will ever form outside of us.
What a beautiful piece—so many lines landed as pure truth. “It’s not doing nothing, it’s choosing not to do everything” especially struck me as such a powerful reframe.
I’ve been consciously expanding my own capacity for stillness lately, and I’ve noticed how loud the internal dialogue can be at first—like a detox from the addiction to busyness and noise. But if you can stay with it, the stillness becomes golden.
We don’t always realize how disconnected we’ve become until we slow down enough to feel ourselves again. Thank you for this reminder.
Thanks Jennifer, I’m so glad to know that you’re already adopting stillness as part of living. It’s a strong move in times where everything is constantly pulling us away from self.
I’ve written something on the same lines, Devansh. You’ll appreciate it. Your newsletter ties so well with this - https://open.substack.com/pub/nehayadav01/p/social-learning-is-dying-and-were?r=ha116&utm_medium=ios
I've been very intentional lately about slowing down and being more present. Calming my nervous system with purposeful under-stimulation. It's been amazing.
Thats an aware and smart move.